Dear readers, I have been writing, but nothing I have written strikes me as blog-worthy. I hope to increase the amount I post but for the meantime this is an adaptation of something I had written down and forgotten about, then – thanks to a friend – remembered suddenly. I hope if you’re reading this, that my message lifts you.
Thanks for reading guys, it’s deeply appreciated.
– Julie
I’ve recently
come to a conclusion that in 2000 or so years from now in the year 4015 AD,
that the name of our Era will be The Age of the Identity Crisis. Seeing as everybody around us when questioned about
their aspirations, goals and dreams or even their current situation you can
safely assume that (like you are) they are also taking time to decide, or just
figure out who it is they want to be, and who it is they’re meant to be.
It's a
struggle. What with every magazine, TV show, movie and let's not forget social
media outlets like Facebook and Instagram practically outlining and reinforcing
the expectations of society.
But where do
you draw the line? When is enough, enough? When is it too much?
We all are
plagued with the overwhelming need for acceptance, from everyone. Even people
who we don't necessarily like. It's become an epidemic. Everyone has to like
you, and you'll do everything and anything to ensure that they do, and the
media knows this. Society knows this.
The sad and all
too inconvenient truth is that we have become worse than drones. Why worse?
Because a drone is programmed to carry out specific orders and designed
specifically for their task, whereas we
humans have a conscience, and the ability to rationalize. We get to develop our own opinions and have our own
ideas. So why don't we? It's simple. Conformity to society provides individuals
with a false feeling of 'belonging' which then leads to the all too easy remedy
of their lost identity.
This is a
problem.
Why? Because
this new found identity and sense of belonging is nothing but short lived. Soon
enough the person you have become, rather, the person whom society formed
becomes your worst enemy. You slowly start to work against yourself, something
doesn't quite click. You read more magazines, you buy more make up, you drink
more at parties, you chase after this new identity of yours and then you
realize, it's all fake. The second you stop conforming, you cease to belong and
who you are while you aren't conforming isn't accepted. Then you're left with nothing
but a few fake friends, a bigger identity crisis than you began with and to top
it off, a lack of self-worth.
Obviously, I
have been through somewhat of the same experience, being a young adult myself.
Here's what I now understand that I wish I understood back then.
'Who
you are, is a reflection of what other's see in you.'
That's the
golden rule. Who you are is a collection of what other people see in you, for
instance, my family see me as 'daughter' 'sister' 'niece' 'granddaughter'
'cousin' something as simple as my place in my family, already creates the aura
of belonging. Now, if we expand past the general titles and labels, you will
notice that who we are actually differs around all kinds of people. At work I
am sophisticated and confident and outgoing. I am respected and I am able to
make decisions and work efficiently. But with my friends, I'm less likely to
call the shots, and I can be a little more indecisive. I can be selfless in the
eyes of some, and selfish in the eyes of others. I can be nice to some people
and other people will think I'm a total bitch. Why is all of this important?
It's simple. Who you are cannot be determined by anyone else. Why? Because even
though 'Who you are is a reflection of what other's see in you" YOU are the
person who shows them only what you want them to see.
So here's my
tip. Go home, on your PC, in your journals or anywhere that you can go back and
read it. Write down who you are, and read it aloud, and if you don't know who
you are, or you’re just not happy with your answer keep looking. It’s okay not
to know who you are, the important thing is that you never stop learning about
yourself, so go ahead, learn, search and during your conquest remember, who you
are, no matter what, is unique and extraordinary, you don’t need to fit in
perfectly with other people, you just need to fit into your own skin.
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